Struggling With a Big Decision? Read This

For as long as I can remember, I’ve believed this:

I’d rather be wildly passionate or fully done.

Anything in the middle feels like hell.

When you're driven by purpose, you’ll move mountains to reach it.

When you’ve had enough of your pain, you’ll move mountains to escape it.

That no man’s land in between?

That limbo where you're not quite miserable enough to change — but not fulfilled enough to stay?

It's where momentum dies.

People will live years, even decades, in that middle space.

Tolerating just enough to survive, but never enough to thrive.

They say things like:

• “It’s not that bad.”

• “Maybe next year.”

• “I’ll wait and see what happens.”

They lie to themselves, calling their delay “reasonable” or “strategic.”

Settling for a familiar hell because the idea of an uncertain heaven feels too risky.

Until one day, they wake up and realize they’re so far off track they don’t recognize the life they’re in.

It's a sobering reality when you finally see just how many decisions you dragged out over...

A month.

A quarter.

A year.

A decade.

And all the mess that procrastination left behind.

That truth stings but it also wakes you up.

If you've been struggling to make a decision...

To cut off from something...

Or hard pivot in a better direction...

You have two options:

1.) Continue to ignore it.

2.) Handle it.

If you choose to handle it, you have to stop looking outward, and look within.

That starts with honesty.

Not just about what’s out of alignment.

But about why you’ve let it stay that way for so long.

These questions bring clarity and force the moment when the pain of staying same outweighs the fear of changing:

Instead of asking:

“What if it doesn't work out?”

You start asking:

“What happens if I don’t?”

Then finally:

“What happens if I do?”

Because once your conviction is louder than your excuses... you don’t just change direction.

You change your life.